We get to choose (for the most part) who we associate ourselves with. However, there are situations we just can’t avoid and we run into toxic personalities. They are our co-workers, our classmates, our boyfriend’s friends, our neighbors whoever they are, we cannot avoid them so we have to learn to deal with them. When confronted with the challenge of dealing with toxic personalities we have to stay strong and not give into those attitudes. We cannot let anyone else mood affect us in a negative way. We can’t help that some people walk around with a chip on their shoulder. All we can do is live our own journeys and learn from our experiences.
Learn how to deal with balloon popping personalities with these 5 easy strategies!
Always remember to remain grateful
We can’t feel grateful and miserable at the same time. When someone is bringing you down with their constant whining and heartache it is the perfect time to start thinking about how grateful you are. You can be grateful that you are not dealing with the same struggles they are. Think of all of the amazing things in your life that give you the strength to not have to complain or worry about the little insignificant things.
You have your journey and they have theirs
You both lead two very different lives. You are on two totally different journeys. It’s okay to sympathize with other people it is what makes us human, but do it with caution. You cannot allow their burdens fall on your shoulders. If they are coming to you day after day with a new problem, or worse, the same problem you have to reach a point where you cannot be their sympathetic ear anymore. It isn’t fair for you to drain your energy listening to them in an effort to help. In the end, they are just like this, they are negative and you are positive.
See it for what it is, a challenge
And what do we do with challenges? We overcome them and are all the better for it. Toxic personalities are tough to deal with but appear in your life for a reason (whether you like it or not). Let these people serve you. Let them be a stepping stone to your personal growth. You are an optimist so look at everything as such. Maybe their attitude will teach you patience. Maybe after the fact you will understand how to deal with different emotions. It could be just a learning experience on how to successfully navigate life while dealing with people that are trying to pull you down. Don’t ignore the lessons the universe is trying to show you. Confront the challenge by being your most upbeat, positive self.
Don’t feed into it
Complaining, gossip, whining, and criticism feed off of attention. Ignore those that want to bring you down. Often they aren’t intentionally bringing you down. They don’t realize that gossip is toxic, that complaining all the time sucks the life out of others, and that the actions they are taking causes a negative reaction. They do it because it is the only way they know how to deal with their problems. You know better. You know complaining gets you nowhere when it’s something you can’t change. You know that listening to complaints gets you nowhere and doesn’t do anyone any good. Do everyone a favor and ignore the drama.
Respond to negativity with positivity
They will either listen to you or stop whining to you because you don’t allow them to come around you with their bad attitude. When someone does come to you with the same old problem and gossip always respond with, “just rise above, it can’t affect you if you don’t let it”. When you use phrases like this they can’t keep going on because you didn’t give them anything to respond to. If you say to them, “I know, I understand” You are going to feed into there drama and hear about there bs for the next 20 minutes.
Our brains are hardwired to care about other people. We are empathetic beings and it makes us vulnerable to other people’s emotions even if it means sacrificing our own happiness sometimes. We are really good at sensing negativity and our reaction is to turn our attention to it and that usually the wrong approach.